▼ Cole is Beyond Blue
▲ Something To Talk About ▼
Therese Borchard interviewed me at her excellent blog Beyond Blue. I gave here a list of five things we can do to help us grow after loss:
- Talk.
Maintain access to interpersonal, sociobiological regulators, which simply means find people who will listen and support us in our crises. These people might be near strangers, but their ability to step up makes them great friends. Therapists are just as valuable.
When we talk about our troubles, we get to hear ourselves, and we get to watch someone else process our experience. If life is indeed one damn thing after another, then this interaction provides relief to distress and engages our abilities to make sense. It's much harder to find relief and make sense on our own.
[Much of my writing focuses on our three primary domains of drive and motivation - Achievement, Social Relationships, Knowledge - ASK. This quote is about Social Relationships. This link discusses all three.]
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