We Need The Help Of Others To Approach Our Emotional Wounds

▲ Our Wounds are a Source of Growth, But We Couldn't Heal Them Alone ▼

Quotes from my inteview at Beyond Meds:

I think it’s much more likely for our hardships, left untended, to crowd out our sense of well-being. We might [want] to live with affirming experience. We need to manage the negating experiences. We do get what we need: We have innate abilities to convert negating experience into valuable perspective.

And,

Our personalized context is perhaps the most necessary tool for living. It’s nothing less than directions for what to do whatever may happen. Without this core understanding, we would miss out on countless opportunities and would be victim to endless threats.

And,

The second part [of rebuilding context] is to expand our capacity to manage our process when we recall and expose ourselves to our raw emotional wounds or a deep sense of sadness and loss. However indirectly, tangentially or orthogonally we approach these traumas, these experiences provide the raw materials for our recovery and growth.

And,

When context is lost, the presence of others helps us face these terrifying wounds. The wisdom of others helps us build better beliefs, regain appropriate trust and gives us the courage to hold to new faiths. Maybe monks, after years of intense contemplative practice, have indomitable self-regulation and tolerance. The rest of us are at great risk of being overwhelmed by exposure if we face our traumas alone.